What if I’m Not Good Enough?

by Marci M. “Fine for you,” some say, “but I’m not the churchgoing type. I’m just not good enough.” Even some churchgoers feel the same way: “I know you can pray and ask God for help, but me? My sins are too black, and I keep making the same dumb mistakes. I’m just not good enough.” I learned a new way of thinking about “good enough” from an experience with my daughter.  Now in her thirties, my daughter has made some unusual choices in life, such as a year living in the mountains in a yurt...
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Where’s the Real Life Reset Button?

By: Marci M Oops. Did it again. I know better – really I do – but I keep making the same mistakes. Sometimes it’s new mistakes. Maybe it’s a trivial annoying matter, with the result being a dented fender, another few pounds gained, or an offended friend. (I didn’t mean to.) Sometimes it’s a mess-up of colossal proportions; the fallout may be life-altering or even life-threatening. Is there a real life reset button? Or am I stuck forever in this regret and misery? How can I repair the damag...
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Aging and Dying: Gradual Graduation into God’s Presence

By: Marci M I’m here to tell you that death isn’t the end. Not for my mom, my friends, for you or for me. That means that all my life I’ve been aging: moving towards graduation into the next world, to live with God once more. We lived with Him before this life; we’ll live with Him again. As the decades pile up, I begin to notice the effects of aging. I begin to notice my body wearing out, piece by piece. I used to be able to stretch farther than that; I used to be faster at that; I used to...
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Why Should I Wait Until Marriage for Sex?

by Marci M (A true story) This particular request from one of my college students was very different from the usual request for a letter of reference, or advice about finding an internship: “Marci, would you be willing to be one of the panelists at our ‘Real Life’ event?” I gulped hard and thought a minute. I knew this week on campus was dedicated to women’s empowerment, with events about preventing gender-based violence, promoting positive body image, etc. But this “Real Life” event wo...
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How Can I Decide Without Knowing the Outcome?

By: Marci M When I was in 8th grade, I accidentally won a full scholarship to a private high school. It happened like this: my parents always told me that standardized test-taking is a skill in itself, so I should practice any chance I got. One day I learned that a small private high school in my hometown was offering a scholarship competition for anyone who wanted to spend two consecutive Saturdays taking standardized tests from 8 am – 5 pm. Gee, I wanted to find out if I could think that lo...
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Call Home

By: Marci M It’s time to go off to college. You’ve had some delightful growing up years, but there are some things that you can only learn when you’re on your own. Your parents book your ticket, help you pack, buy dorm gear in your favorite colors, and send you off with rib-cracking hugs. You land in the new place, meet the overly cheery orientation team, unpack that dorm gear in your favorite colors, meet new friends, and dig into your classes. You sometimes think about your life before t...
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