Family Strengths – Caring and Appreciation

The Family: A Proclamation to the World declares that husbands and wives- fathers and mothers- have solemn obligations to love and care for each other and their children, and to teach their children to love and care for each other. Loving and caring in families thus involves much more than the feeling of love. It involves loving actions even at times when we don't feel especially loving. Recent national studies affirm the importance of love and caring in families. Research shows that exp...
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Everyday Marriage

It was a beautiful spring morning as Todd leaned over to wake his wife with a soft kiss. "Good morning sweetheart." A smile formed on Sarah's tired face. She crawled out of bed and into the shower, as Todd began making eggs and toast. Just as Sarah came down the stairs, she heard Todd yell, "The school bus is here!" The kids rushed past Sarah and out the door. Sarah entered the kitchen to find Todd wolfing down breakfast. "I'll be late," he said. He reached over to touch her arm -- ...
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Nurturing Love and Respect in Marriage

The Family: A Proclamation to the World reminds us we have an obligation to love and serve our marriage partner. To love them effectively, we have to know and understand their inner world—their likes, dislikes, thoughts, and feelings. Taking the time to do this and then acting on what we learn is a powerful way to nurture love and respect in our marriage. John Gottman calls this process enhancing our "love maps." A love map is the part of your brain where you store important information a...
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Equal Partnership in Marriage

The Family: A Proclamation to the World teaches that fathers and mothers have specific, God-ordained responsibilities within an equal partnership, with neither husband nor wife seeking to dominate the other. When partners in a marriage value equality, they treat each other with respect, consider each other’s needs, and support one another. Equal partners agree on goals and work as a team to achieve them. They show equal commitment to the relationship and provide mutual support and nurturi...
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Building a Fondness and Admiration System

No one's perfect, including you and the person you're married to. Maybe she squeezes the toothpaste from the middle or he leaves the toilet seat up. Maybe she is bull-headed and he is annoyingly indecisive. Maybe one of you is a workaholic and another spends too much money. Despite their flaws, it's likely that deep down you believe your spouse is a good person who is worthy of honor and respect. At the heart of nearly every marriage lies this fundamental belief: that one's partner in mar...
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