What If Things Aren’t Working Out? Change and the Principles of Faith and Repentance

  Contributed by Thomas B. Holman   In the last article we suggested some ways to change dating styles that aren’t working for you. But this can be difficult. Some things we need to change are very ingrained. Changing can make you feel vulnerable.  Many times changes are just not that easy to make. So it can seem easier to change not at all, or very little. But for many of us, major changes need to be made that indeed aren’t easy. If we don’t make them, we simply aren’t going to be...
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Not Understanding Helps Me Understand

by Lori F. I am continually surprised by the way new things happen in the same old situations. Despite the Teacher’s assertion that there’s nothing new under the sun, there’s still a lot of new light being shed. We attended an Easter service at the Kiel (Germany) ward of our church, and there was a lot I didn’t understand. I know several dozen words in German, perhaps even a hundred. But only a few of the ones I know came up in conversation or in the service, and they were positively swamp...
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What if I’m Not Good Enough?

by Marci M. “Fine for you,” some say, “but I’m not the churchgoing type. I’m just not good enough.” Even some churchgoers feel the same way: “I know you can pray and ask God for help, but me? My sins are too black, and I keep making the same dumb mistakes. I’m just not good enough.” I learned a new way of thinking about “good enough” from an experience with my daughter.  Now in her thirties, my daughter has made some unusual choices in life, such as a year living in the mountains in a yurt...
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Aren’t a Lot of Religious People Hypocrites?

By Elana B “I don’t need religion. I don’t need to go to church to be a good person or happy. Besides, I think church-goers are all a bunch of hypocrites.” That’s often what I hear, along with: “Your standards are out of date; no one believes them anymore.” These comments are often the basis for criticism or a direct attack, or they’re the basis for a group’s or individual’s fighting back, railing against the loss of morals and decorum in society. The proverbial “gauntlet” is thrown down dail...
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Free from Addiction

By Michael H My father was an alcoholic. His mother was an alcoholic. When my father drank, he was an angry drunk, and the more he drank the angrier he became. His anger manifested itself through fighting. As a teenager he fought while drunk. As an adult, I witnessed him initiate a fist fight with a neighbor over the placement of a garbage can in the alley behind our house. He fought on the sports field, the basketball court, at work and at home. He medicated his pains with alcohol. Eventuall...
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What is the Source of Self-Worth?

By Nicole L. I’ve wasted many hours of my life trying to be perfect. Growing up, my parents taught me to do my best. For some reason, in my little head “best” equated to “the best,” which came to mean, for me, not the way that other people did something, but how it was theoretically meant to be done. And that is how I wanted all things to be: perfect. I honestly thought that in order for life to be meaningful and worth it, I had to do everything perfectly. This mindset helped me develop...
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