What If Things Aren’t Working Out? Dating Styles and Interest Cues

Contributed by Thomas B. Holman Dealing with Problematic Sending/Receiving Cues and Issues with your Dating Style The way to deal with how to send and receive appropriate interest cues or dating styles have some things in common. Here are several things you can consider doing to overcome them to jumpstart your dating life. Thoughtfully Evaluate Your Situation and Think about What You Can Do. You are your first source of change, and ultimately, you are where the change must happen even...
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Changing your Facebook Status from “Single” to “In a Relationship”!—Building Up a Relationship

  Contributed by Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros So just listen—really listen Responding to Disclosures. Now let’s look at how you should respond when your date has given you some information or disclosed her or his feeling or opinion about something. Researchers have found that for you to be seen as responsive and caring, four things need to happen. You need to: Listen to what was said. Understand the “spoken” meaning of what was said and the more subtle “unspoke...
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Motives & Manganese

By Mike C. In June 1974 billionaire playboy Tony Stark, uhh… I mean Howard Hughes,  launched the Hughes Glomar Explorer (HGE).  At 618 feet and 36,000 tons, the ship was a pretty impressive sight.  Reports said it had the capability to pick up 5,000 tons of ore off the ocean floor each day.  And what kind of ore were they looking for – gold, silver, platinum?  Actually they were reportedly looking for manganese. The story gets stranger.  It turns out that the whole manganese story was ...
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Miserably Ever After?

BY ADENA AND AMY [Editor’s note:  We’re all aware of the many tragic instances of husbands verbally abusing their wives, but this article relates how the wife can do the same.  Still, all the principles related here apply equally to husbands.] The other day at the store, I saw a husband miserably pushing a shopping cart behind his wife as she browsed; he occasionally picked out something, asking, “How about this one? This looks good.” Each time, his wife had a cutting remark: “Our kids...
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Say it With Love: Using Communication to Strengthen Our Relationships with Our Children

Supportive messages from parents to children lead to a variety of positive outcomes. Some of these include higher self-esteem, greater adherence to moral standards, compliance with parents' wishes, less aggression and other problem behavior. Fathers foster cognitive development, masculine sex-role identification and academic achievement of sons; mothers foster the cognitive development and feminine sex-role identification of daughters. Other communication-related factors contributing to posi...
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Listening to Children with Head and Heart

Many sounds in our world compete for our attention. As parents, life can become so hectic we fail to truly listen, especially to those closest to us--like our children. The words of an anonymous author teaches a profound lesson about listening: A wise, old owl sat on an oak The more he saw, the less he spoke. The less he spoke, the more he heard. Why can't we all be like that bird? The ancient Greek philosopher Zeno of Citium said we have been given one mouth and two ears that we mi...
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