Is He/She the One – or Should I Run? Sliding versus Deciding

At some point you have to decide: “Is he/she the one, or should I run?!” This can happen any time in a relationship from very early on up to the day you get married. But for most couples it is a very real decision-point when they decide whether to move from dating to engaged (or at least “engaged to be engaged”).  Some couples seem to move fairly effortlessly from dating to the decision to get engaged and married, but for many couples this is an important, often nerve-racking, and scary deci...
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What If Things Aren’t Working Out? Dating Styles and Interest Cues

Contributed by Thomas B. Holman Dealing with Problematic Sending/Receiving Cues and Issues with your Dating Style The way to deal with how to send and receive appropriate interest cues or dating styles have some things in common. Here are several things you can consider doing to overcome them to jumpstart your dating life. Thoughtfully Evaluate Your Situation and Think about What You Can Do. You are your first source of change, and ultimately, you are where the change must happen even...
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What If Things Aren’t Working Out? Look at Your Dating Style

  Contributed by Thomas B. Holman, Natalie Gilbert, and Matthew Call  Understanding and Maybe Changing Your Dating Style Asking someone out for a date or making it clear you would accept a date if asked is easier if one has realistic and positive expectations and perceptions of themselves and of others. These feelings and expectations develop over time. When a person has a history of positive experiences with parents, peers, and others who are available and responsive to their need for clo...
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Changing your Facebook Status from “Single” to “In a Relationship”!—Start Dating

Contributed by Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros From Acquaintance to Dates Getting acquainted with someone can happen in one quick encounter, but for most people it takes some time, several weeks or months, to get to know them, let them get to know you, and see if you’d like to move to the next phase—having a date that may turn into more dates. Some Ideas about What to Do on Dates Think about the doctrine of Creation again. We learn that God created this earth in part that it b...
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Changing your Facebook Status from “Single” to “In a Relationship”!—Attraction and Getting Acquainted

Contributed by Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros Although the risk may be seen as high, especially at this very early phase, research shows that the most effective strategy [for getting better acquainted] is asking if a person would go out with you. The ABCs of Dating Getting from single to married is a unique adventure for everyone. But every relationship has a beginning, middle, and an end (ending in marriage or break up). One way to think about it is through the ABC’s: Attrac...
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Marriage Preparation – Who Should Be IN Your Pool of Eligibles?

Contributed by Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros In the last article, we learned about your “pool of eligibles”—people who are “eligible” for you to marry—and whom you should quickly eliminate from that pool. In this article we will discuss who should be IN your pool of eligibles. Two clichés about love are that “opposites attract” or “birds of a feather flock together.” Which is correct? Which is best for long-term survival of the marriage? Researchers have shown that we tend to m...
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