How Does the Good, Bad, and Ugly from My Family Affect Me—and What Do I Do about It?

By Dr. Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros Transitional Characters. This change of heart we discussed in the previous articles leads to another phenomenon that is important for you to understand as you come to terms with dysfunctional aspects of your family past. It is called becoming a transitional character. A well-known marriage and family therapist, Dr. Carlfred B. Broderick, studied this process of putting off bad things from your past and coined the term “transitional characters.” ...
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My Family Background and My Fitness for Marriage – Part 1

Preserving the Good from My Family How Does the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly from our Families Affect Me—and What Do I Do about It?           By Dr. Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros We have sayings about that, and you have probably heard them: “The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree,” “Chip off the old block,” and “Like father, like son.” In a lot of cases, we hope these sayings are true—we admire our parents and hope we can live up to their examples as individuals, as a couple, and as...
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My Family Background and My Fitness for Marriage – Part 2

Coming to Terms with Dysfunctional Family Background Issues By Dr. Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros Christ’s Atonement Working in Us Changes our Hearts about Bad Things that Happened in our Family Backgrounds My students and I did a large number of interviews of young single adults several different times during a 12 month period. We asked them about their current dating relationships and about their family background. Some like Amanda had family dysfunction in her family background. ...
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After the Storm

Moore, Oklahoma - May 20, 2013 A devastating, killer tornado struck. But the lives of this woman and her family were saved forever.  Her husband had left her, and she was in the depth of despair, but the tornado miraculously changed all that. "That morning I had wanted to give up.  But when I faced the reality that I might have lost my kids, that I might not see their faces, or hear their laughter again, I changed my mind." "God moves in a mysterious way, His wonders to perform." After ...
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Neotame Happiness

The bottle in the picture above contains Neotame.  This is the sweetest substance known to man.  It’s about 10,000 times sweeter than sugar.  It’s a bit hard to imagine how sweet that actually is, so let me illustrate.  A 4.5 gram pile of Neotame (that’s about the mass of a nickel), would have the same sweetness as 100 pounds of sugar.  That’s incredible!  The bottle I have is 2% Neotame dissolved in water.  Even though it’s only 2% Neotame, one drop of it is the same sweetness as a teaspoon...
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