Motivation for Marriage

Contributed by Thomas B. Holman To Be Successful At Dating and Marrying, You Need To Figure Out What Will Give You an Ongoing, Burning Desire to Succeed I recently scanned The Mayo Clinic Diet book. The Mayo Clinic is one of the premier medical centers in the world and they have been helping people with lots of things including weight control for decades. In the first chapter of the book the authors say: “Knowing the how-to, eat-this/don’t-eat-that of weight loss is certainly import...
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Family Strengths: Adaptive Ability

Strong families develop predictable routines, roles, and rules that govern everyday life and provide for continuity and stability. Some of the more obvious patterns are who cooks, washes dishes, does the laundry, or fixes the car. Other less obvious patterns include: Who has the right to make what decisions? How do we handle differences of opinion? How do we express anger, affection, or other emotions? Reasonably stable patterns empower a family to deal with the many inevitable challenges...
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A Moment of Epiphany

I remember it like it was yesterday. The first time I was struck by a piece of art. It was like ringing a bell, and it has been reverberating ever since. I was a sophomore in High School and was at my friend Tom’s house. He had a copy of a catalog of graphic works by the Bakersfield College art students. The piece he showed me was by the brother of another friend of mine. It was a pencil drawing of such incredible detail that it looked like a photograph. I couldn’t believe that someone I ...
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Cognitive versus Spiritual Therapy

Anonymous In my life I have recognized my own mental dysfunctions and have sought various therapies, both academic and spiritual, to help me overcome them. In this article, I look at both approaches. Academic Research As I reviewed academic research, two cognitive therapies really resonated. The first was from M.E.P. Seligman, Learned Optimism. Summarized, outlook is important because pessimists tend to be less happy, productive, successful and healthy than optimists. The optimistic ...
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Is There a Path to Follow?

By Chandler F Two years ago my family, friends, and I went backpacking through the Rocky Mountains of Colorado. Our plan was to hike 25 miles up to a certain peak and then to return. Excitement abounded among us as we camped at the bottom that first night. We were ready. Morning came and we were anxious to begin this great journey through the beautiful mountains. Unfortunately for quite some time, we couldn't figure out where our trail was! This setback was frustrating. Finally my grandfat...
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How Do You Get Over Feelings of Inadequacy?

By Mallory M “Your throat feels enlarged. I think you should see your doctor.” These words from my dentist were concerning. Later, when I visited my doctor he told me he could indeed feel some nodules in my neck and recommended that I have a biopsy. These words would change my life. The next week I went in for the biopsy and the week after that we got the results. The doctor told me I had Papillary Thyroid Cancer. It is said that we are our worst critics. This is certainly true in my case....
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