Changing your Facebook Status from “Single” to “In a Relationship”!—Moving toward Commitment

Contributed by Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros As couples begin to feel this comfortable, at ease, secure feeling in each other’s company, they are ready to move from “having dates” to “dating,” or being “in a relationship,” or having a “boyfriend” or “girlfriend.” We found all these terms to be used pretty much interchangeably by our research participants. With some couples this has to come after a pre-determined number of dates—like by the 3rd date. But with many couples it comes mor...
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Changing your Facebook Status from “Single” to “In a Relationship”!—Building Up a Relationship

  Contributed by Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros So just listen—really listen Responding to Disclosures. Now let’s look at how you should respond when your date has given you some information or disclosed her or his feeling or opinion about something. Researchers have found that for you to be seen as responsive and caring, four things need to happen. You need to: Listen to what was said. Understand the “spoken” meaning of what was said and the more subtle “unspoke...
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Dozens of Great Date Ideas

From LDSdates.com Here is a whole truckload of ideas for dates.  Page through and find things that you might really enjoy. Crafts Antique hunting Candle making Collecting things Cross-stitching Drawing Flower arrangements Macramé Make t-shirts Painting Pottery Quilting Refinishing things Scrap-booking Sculpture   Cultural Concerts, free community concerts International culture dinner Learn new ethnic dances Local tours ...
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Changing your Facebook Status from “Single” to “In a Relationship”!—Start Dating

Contributed by Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros From Acquaintance to Dates Getting acquainted with someone can happen in one quick encounter, but for most people it takes some time, several weeks or months, to get to know them, let them get to know you, and see if you’d like to move to the next phase—having a date that may turn into more dates. Some Ideas about What to Do on Dates Think about the doctrine of Creation again. We learn that God created this earth in part that it b...
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Marriage Preparation – Who Should Be IN Your Pool of Eligibles?

Contributed by Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros In the last article, we learned about your “pool of eligibles”—people who are “eligible” for you to marry—and whom you should quickly eliminate from that pool. In this article we will discuss who should be IN your pool of eligibles. Two clichés about love are that “opposites attract” or “birds of a feather flock together.” Which is correct? Which is best for long-term survival of the marriage? Researchers have shown that we tend to m...
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Feeling Good about yourself is Essential for Successful Dating and a Happy Marriage

Contributed by Thomas B. Holman A relationship with God is essential to establishing a strong sense of self. I learned that accepting myself and embracing who we truly are is the first step into connecting with people. I have learned that it helps to think about our best friend when we are beating ourselves up for something. “If this happened to my best friend, would I think about her differently? Would I think she is a loser? Does her big nose make her not lovable? Is she not a person...
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