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Why Does God Allow Suffering?

By Cherie G.

It’s a tough question.  The way I see it, each of us is a student in God’s gigantic classroom.  We’ve each been given an intricate and powerful machine called “eternity”, and we’re all here to learn how it works so that one day, we can become like God and create our own worlds and children, just like him. Eternity functions when all eternal laws (i.e. physics, marriage, math, agency, families, etc.) are understood and are being used properly.  Just like the with laws of motion, if the user of eternity doesn’t perfectly understand or obey all of those eternal laws, then the machine will crash, and the type and violence of the crash depends on the severity and type of the law overlooked/disobeyed.  Because this life is a learning process and eternity is VERY complex, we can be great students of the laws and still experience crashes and explosions in our lives that lead to difficult and painful experiences.

While we are each dealing with our own crashes and explosions, there is another dynamic to this classroom. Every time a machine blows up or breaks down, there’s collateral damage. The really big explosions often severely injure those in close proximity.  To us, it appears chaotic and brutal, but there’s one more thing to keep in mind. The Lord is omniscient. Since time and space do not bind his perception, he can know whose machine is going to explode, when, and why. With that knowledge, the Lord organizes his classroom.

The Lord knows which explosions would injure me in just the right way as to promote a better, more thorough and memorable understanding of eternal laws. Yes, I do believe that every injury from every indirect explosion (meaning, the consequence of someone else’s actions) or mistake is strategically meant to become an opportunity.  It’s an opportunity to learn something more about eternity, to become more capable than you ever could have managed having gone unscathed. Whether it’s losing your ability to walk because someone was a careless driver, enduring sexual abuse, or experiencing the death of a loved one, every explosion, of all sizes and shapes, is an opportunity for growth and improvement that extends beyond our previous capabilities. Some will have longer, and perhaps more painful/involved, healing times.  But I know even that process can be a refining one.  Long story short, we need to accept that the equation below, though popular, is some very bad math:

Injuries = suffering = misery = bad (avoid at all costs)

I’m not saying we shouldn’t try to alleviate the suffering of others, or that we should seek out suffering, nor that suffering might somehow turn into a pleasant experience. I do believe suffering is inevitable and awful to endure, but is one of the most effective ways to teach love to selfish beings (and as we know love is a very big and very powerful eternal law).  I don’t think any human would ever be able to prevent all suffering. I also don’t believe any God ever would.

To answer the question more directly, I think the reason God does not protect us from one another’s explosions is because the open proximity, connection, and communication with your peers is essential to our eternal education.  That vulnerability is unquestionably necessary to really learn about love.  Think about the outpouring of love for those families in Connecticut, or how much better we are about loving our neighbors when we know they are struggling.  I think there’s a reason God creates circumstances that can result in suffering, and I believe those circumstances are intelligently designed to put us on the fast track to deeper, more truthful, understandings of eternity.  Whether that be a hurricane, an election, or a school shooting, the Lord is wise and knows how to get the greatest investment out of choice and circumstance (good and bad) without interfering with our agency.  Since agency is one of those laws God perfectly understands and wouldn’t revoke from his children, I figure the best way to deal with tragedy is rely on him to teach me what I can learn and how I can grow from it.

Bringing this back to my own life and experience with eternity, I do not, and will not doubt that the people in my life have been strategically placed there and that the experiences I’ve had were meant to augment my progression. I have a solid and strong testimony that the Lord knew which of my peers would be able to teach me the most about eternity at any given time.  He also knew which of my peers I might be able to assist most effectively.  This is probably where I’ve felt the most blessed in my life.  Even though I have my fair share of scars from friendly (or maybe not so friendly) fire, I know that I’ve learned more about love, God, and his children from those experiences than many, perhaps more pleasant, memories.

Some might ask why God doesn’t just give us all the answers, or work eternity for us so that we can avoid explosions.  First, I would refer them to the beginning of this post.  Eternity is not something to be mastered by simple memorization.  Just because you can recite the text doesn’t mean you have an understanding.  We learn by doing, and like it or not, it’s a long, arduous process.  Secondly, the Lord cannot choose for us because we are the one’s trying to figure out eternity, not him.  Sure, he would get a lot of appreciation if he just did it for everyone, but he also wouldn’t produce very capable students. I’m pretty sure that’s the whole point of this chaotic earthly classroom.

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03 2013

How can we be Filled with Joy, Peace and Consolation?

By Lyndsi P.

This November and December saw some new challenges that made my life less effortless
reallifeanswers12 than before. I found myself feeling bitter over turns of events that I considered to be unfair, and I sometimes blamed God for not shielding me from the hurt. This anger made it hard for me to get into the Christmas spirit, and I felt empty in what should have been a season of joy. As I prayed for understanding, I started to feel that God wanted me to learn more about the Atonement of Jesus Christ. I had come to know through past personal experience that because Christ suffered all pains and afflictions for each of us, he can help us heal from all hurt. Preach My Gospel, an LDS book written by prophets and apostles called of God teaches, “As we rely on the Atonement of Jesus Christ, He can help us endure our trials, sicknesses, and pain. We can be filled with joy, peace, and consolation. All that is unfair about life can be made right through the Atonement of Jesus Christ,” (PMG, page 52).

 

Additionally, the prophet Alma in the Book of Mormon prophesies of Christ and explains why he has the ability to help us:

And behold, he shall be born of Mary, at Jerusalem which is the land of our forefathers, she being a virgin, a precious and chosen vessel, who shall be overshadowed and conceive by the power of the Holy Ghost, and bring forth a son, yea, even the Son of God. And he shall go forth, suffering pains and afflictions and temptations of every kind; and this that the word might be fulfilled which saith he will take upon him the pains and the sicknesses of his people. And he will take upon him death, that he may loose the bands of death which bind his people; and he will take upon him their infirmities, that his bowels may be filled with mercy, according to the flesh, that he may know according to the flesh how to succor his people according to their infirmities. Now the Spirit knoweth all things; nevertheless the Son of God suffereth according to the flesh that he might take upon him the sins of his people, that he might blot out their transgressions according to the power of his deliverance; and now behold, this is the testimony which is in me. (Alma 7:10–13)

I needed to be reminded of these things, and I think that through these challenges, God has been trying to teach me what Christmas is really about.

 

The Christmas season is full of sights and sounds that encourage us to be merry and seek out those we love. While these activities are good, they can bring us very little joy if we don’t remember Christ.  In the Book of Psalms, David teaches, “The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart,” (Psalms 34:18). It is interesting to me that we often need a broken heart to feel the influence of the Savior in our lives. I don’t think God wants us to be unhappy, I think he just wants us to recognize that the only lasting happiness comes from Christ. This happiness can exist in our lives no matter what our external circumstances are. Christmas doesn’t need to be full of gifts or parties. It doesn’t even necessarily need to be spent with our loved ones. If Christmas were to be fully effective, it would remind every living soul that not only was Christ born in the past, but he is presently ready and willing to help us overcome all things. This is the true spirit of Christmas.

 

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life,” (John 3:16).

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12 2012

How can I know where to go next?

By Austin W.

I started my MBA program at Harvard this fall, so I’ve had some occasion to speak with classmates about career and life planning. HBS encourages students to think carefully about career options. Although there are exceptions, the general consensus goes like this: “While other less fortunate people must make do with the limited opportunities they are relegated to in life, you who will shortly be graduates of this distinguished university are free to fully optimize each and every step for minimizing risks, and maximizing rewards along the way to ultimate success.” Ultimate success is usually taken to mean “The Top.”

This general conversation—the volume of which will reach great heights during the upcoming recruiting season—reminds me of the journey of young Alice through Wonderland, especially that poignant dialogue between her and the Cheshire Cat:

Alice: Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?

The Cat: That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.

Alice: I don’t much care where.

The Cat: Then it doesn’t much matter which way you go.

Alice: … so long as I get somewhere.

The Cat: Oh, you’re sure to do that, if only you walk long enough.

The “getting somewhere” of Alice seems similar to “The Top” that I and my classmates seem to have in the back of our minds. But to settle the question of where to go next, it becomes painfully clear that Alice needs to know specifically where she wants to get to, which she does not know. She just has a vague expectation to “get somewhere.” The notion of “The Top” is equally vague. So while it’s fair to say there’s no need to know specifics about our ultimate professional destinations, the question remains: “Where, then, should we look for guidance about where to go next?”

Here are some gospel principles I use to guide my own decisions about where to take the next steps:

  1. God has a plan for my life, and he knows me better than I know myself.
  2. Through prayer and reflection, God increases my self-awareness, and I come to learn more about my God-given gifts.
  3. I should seek work that most leverages these gifts, and allows me to contribute net positively to my family, myself, and the world.

 

Taken together, these principles help me to put work in the context of my life, rather than the other way around. With the proper perspective of life and its true purpose, which I believe is to become more like God by seeking his guidance and applying it in my daily life, work is put into proper perspective as the means to other, more meaningful ends. Therefore, work is only important insofar as it contributes net positively to achieving the ultimate goal of life. It does this as we exercise and perfect our God-given talents to bless and serve others, as well as develop virtues along the way, such as diligence, faith, generosity, and patience. I will be focusing my efforts on finding work environments that allow for this kind of personal growth, which I suspect will lead me to different opportunities than if I were organizing my search only by the quickest way to “The Top.”

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