Miserably Ever After?

BY ADENA AND AMY [Editor’s note:  We’re all aware of the many tragic instances of husbands verbally abusing their wives, but this article relates how the wife can do the same.  Still, all the principles related here apply equally to husbands.] The other day at the store, I saw a husband miserably pushing a shopping cart behind his wife as she browsed; he occasionally picked out something, asking, “How about this one? This looks good.” Each time, his wife had a cutting remark: “Our kids...
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Dealing With Depression In Marriage  

With an estimated 17 million Americans suffering from a depressive illness, it is safe to say that mental illness is one of the most painful and persistent trials that a family will face. The American Medical Association considers it the most incapacitating of chronic conditions in relation to social functioning. More than one in ten people will suffer a serious depression at some point in their life; however nearly two-thirds do not get the help they need. Such an illness impacts the hom...
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Everyday Marriage

It was a beautiful spring morning as Todd leaned over to wake his wife with a soft kiss. "Good morning sweetheart." A smile formed on Sarah's tired face. She crawled out of bed and into the shower, as Todd began making eggs and toast. Just as Sarah came down the stairs, she heard Todd yell, "The school bus is here!" The kids rushed past Sarah and out the door. Sarah entered the kitchen to find Todd wolfing down breakfast. "I'll be late," he said. He reached over to touch her arm -- ...
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Strengthening Interfaith Marriage

For many couples religion unifies and strengthens their marriage. For others, it tears them apart. When individuals from two different religions marry, they sometimes begin a lifetime of disagreements that can be devastating to the sacred union of marriage. Religion is a very important part of many people's lives. A study done in the United States showed that 89% of happily married couples agreed on how spiritual values and beliefs are expressed. Even couples who attend services in differ...
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Staying Connected with Each Other

When Russ walks in the door, Carol looks up from her newspaper and says, "How was your day?" When Christine and Steven are walking down the grocery aisle he asks, "Aren't we almost out of milk?" When Jay peers over Liz's shoulder to see what she's doing, she turns and gives him a quick kiss on the chin. Each of these mini-scenarios represents a couple connecting in some small way. A wife acknowledges her husband's entrance instead of keeping her eyes glued to the newspaper. A husband...
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Nurturing Friendship in Marriage

Good marriages seem rare these days, but a leading marriage expert says it's not complicated—or even necessarily difficult—to make a marriage last. Friendship, says John Gottman, is at the core of a strong marriage.  Friendship between couples means they "know each other intimately" and "are well versed in each other's likes, dislikes, personality quirks, hopes and dreams," Gottman says in The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Based on twenty-five years of research, The Seven Pri...
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