Marriage Preparation – Who Should Be IN Your Pool of Eligibles?

Contributed by Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros In the last article, we learned about your “pool of eligibles”—people who are “eligible” for you to marry—and whom you should quickly eliminate from that pool. In this article we will discuss who should be IN your pool of eligibles. Two clichés about love are that “opposites attract” or “birds of a feather flock together.” Which is correct? Which is best for long-term survival of the marriage? Researchers have shown that we tend to m...
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Marriage Preparation – Diving Into Your Pool of Eligibles

Contributed by Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros Forget the Soul Mate Idea, Instead Dive into Your Pool of Eligibles Do you find yourself wondering which lucky person in this big world will end up as your bride or groom? You may feel like your challenge is to “find” your one true love, your soul mate—who’s out there somewhere – before the timer rings and your opportunity is passed. No wonder dating feels so overwhelming! Take a moment and sigh with relief knowing the whole soul mate i...
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Dealing with Pornography Addiction

By Dr. Thomas B. Holman and Abby Viveiros Helpful Information: Pornography is any type of material that is sexually explicit and intended for the purpose of sexual arousal. In simple terms, you know it when you see it or read it. What’s wrong with pornography? Everything. Its entire purpose is to satisfy lust – also known as the deadliest of the seven sins – which mocks the divinity of procreation and is powerful enough to create an instant addiction in some people. Religious leaders hav...
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Marriage Preparation – Dealing with Eating Disorders

By Abby Viveiros and Dr. Thomas B. Holman Helpful Information: An eating disorder is a complicated mental illness/addiction that strikes many people. In America alone, over 24 million people suffer from anorexia or bulimia at some point in their lifetime. This is especially true if we have perfectionistic tendencies—a common trait found in people with eating disorders. As most people know, the biggest danger with an eating disorder is the damage to the body. Some experts suggest that ...
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Marriage Preparation – Dealing with a Mental Illness

  By Abby Viveiros and Dr. Thomas B. Holman Helpful Information: If you suffer from mental illness, be assured that you are not alone. About one in four Americans suffers from mental illnesses such as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, or schizophrenia each year. That’s a quarter of our population! To put that into perspective, more Americans have mental illness than blue eyes (one in six Americans has blue eyes). Mental illness hits people of all sizes, shapes, backgrounds, and r...
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Marriage Preparation – Dealing with Roadblock of Feeling Inadequate

Can I Marry Even Though…? Dealing with Roadblock of Feeling Inadequate   By Abby Viveiros and Dr. Thomas B. Holman Cryshel reveals the impact depression can have on how we feel about ourselves and our chances for success in marriage: “I grew up in a quiet town, where most of my friends weren’t even sure if depression was real, but I always knew the truth. My mom has been on depression medication my whole life. Depression is a painful disorder, and its feelings can alienate a...
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