Say it With Love: Using Communication to Strengthen Our Relationships with Our Children

Supportive messages from parents to children lead to a variety of positive outcomes. Some of these include higher self-esteem, greater adherence to moral standards, compliance with parents' wishes, less aggression and other problem behavior. Fathers foster cognitive development, masculine sex-role identification and academic achievement of sons; mothers foster the cognitive development and feminine sex-role identification of daughters. Other communication-related factors contributing to posi...
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Listening to Children with Head and Heart

Many sounds in our world compete for our attention. As parents, life can become so hectic we fail to truly listen, especially to those closest to us--like our children. The words of an anonymous author teaches a profound lesson about listening: A wise, old owl sat on an oak The more he saw, the less he spoke. The less he spoke, the more he heard. Why can't we all be like that bird? The ancient Greek philosopher Zeno of Citium said we have been given one mouth and two ears that we mi...
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Mealtime Matters

"What's for dinner?" Johnny says to his mom as he comes running into the house, home late from soccer practice and about to be late to piano lessons. He grabs a bag of chips and some fruit snacks from the pantry and begins eating on his way to the shower. Dad hasn't arrived from work, and the other kids recently finished their snack of graham crackers and chocolate milk. Now they say they aren't hungry. Mom sits down on the sofa with her microwave dinner and turns on her favorite TV show. Wh...
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Family Strengths – Communication

Strong families communicate. They take time to talk and listen to one another. They share their hopes and dreams, feelings and concerns. They take the time to listen and respond to what others have to say. Research shows that good communication in families is vital. In one national study, strong parent-child communication was associated with fewer behavioral problems, higher ratings in school citizenship, and less depression and drug use. Communication problems-especially unresolved confl...
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