Why Should I Wait Until Marriage for Sex?

by Marci M (A true story) This particular request from one of my college students was very different from the usual request for a letter of reference, or advice about finding an internship: “Marci, would you be willing to be one of the panelists at our ‘Real Life’ event?” I gulped hard and thought a minute. I knew this week on campus was dedicated to women’s empowerment, with events about preventing gender-based violence, promoting positive body image, etc. But this “Real Life” event wo...
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How Can I Find Comfort When I Have so Little?

By Emily H There is a rug on the floor of my room. It is small and colorful and hand-sewn. I walk on it every day and it's ripping at the edges, but it has never gone unnoticed or unloved. Five years ago I found it in a box of knick-knacks from my mom's basement. I tucked it away with my things and took it with me to college. When I got to my first dorm room I unrolled it beside my bed before unpacking the few other things that I owned. Of everything that I brought with me, I quickly becam...
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How Can I Cope with My Parent’s Divorce?

Name Withheld Throughout my life, I have repeatedly told myself that I am strong. I can get through anything. The cage around my heart is solid metal, and it would take a lot to wound my soul. This was all before I realized that the greatest heartaches happen when the people you’ve already let inside your caged heart wound you emotionally. In a way, this is what happened when my parents started the process of getting divorced. Their marriage had never been whole. Being in a home with raise...
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Is Kindness For Everyone A Possibility?

Some people think those who are kind to a fault are weak, too mousey to ever do anything bold, fight back, or are fraidy cats...the list of labels is long. But when kindness is a choice--and it always is--there is nothing weak about it. It is a sign of strength, of maturity, a decision to embody the golden rule. The irony in choosing to be kind is that it can bring about world peace, that inside-joke of an answer to every beauty pageant question, and what world leaders, the media and pretty much...
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What is the Antidote for Loneliness?

Many thousands of lonely people daily pay online sites in the hope of connecting romantically. Electronic gadgets keep the eyes of their users averted from the people around them; in return, the ignored feel invisible or, at least, discounted. People lose jobs and the relationships they provided, and then compound their alienation by withdrawing even further in shame or anger. Many people do not have the means to participate in social situations they would otherwise choose, and then erect a wall...
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Why Forgive?

By Jennifer H “Why is it so hard to let go?” I found myself wondering as I turned thoughts and memories over and over again for the umpteenth time, attempting to make sense of them. For almost three months, I had been trying to accept something incredibly painful that had happened in my life and move on from it. Without going into too much detail on the whole thing, I’ll just say that my best friend had done something that really upset me. And, to be quite honest, it scared me how affected I ...
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