How Can God Help Me Make a Good Decision About Marriage?

By Russell D.

My first wife passed away while I was still in my 50’s. We were fortunate enough to have time to discuss our lives after she was gone. She encouraged me to remarry. After a few years of grieving, I wondered if I should and if so when. After study and thought, and making a decision that the answer was yes and I would know when it was time, it became clear that the decision was correct. Then I met a genuine lady and we started to date. We discussed marriage, but was this the correct decision? This time we searched for an answer together, made a decision, and we knew our decision was correct.

Throughout our lives we are faced with many decisions, some large, some small. It might be as simple as where to stop for gas or milk, or a decision that may impact the rest of our lives, such as taking a job, or buying a house or whom and when to marry. I know that many times in my life these questions needed to be answered. If only there were a way to know the decisions we have made are correct. Well, there is!

I am not advocating that we should put every small decision to the following criterion, but certainly decisions that impact the rest of our lives are good candidates. How do we know if our decisions are correct? The answer is found in the scriptures:

“You have supposed that I would give it unto you, when you took no thought save it was to ask me. But, behold, I say unto you, that you must study it out in your mind; then you must ask me if it be right, and if it is right I will cause that your bosom shall burn within you; therefore, you shall feel that it is right. But if it be not right you shall have no such feelings, but you shall have a stupor of thought that shall cause you to forget the thing which is wrong.”

This is the Lord speaking to each of us as to how to make prayerful decisions. He says it takes more than just asking, we are to study out our problem. For me, that sometimes means making a list of pros and cons to make a certain decision. For example, should I remarry? What are the pros and cons? Then based on all the information we have before us, we must make a decision, and ask if it is the right decision. Then our answer will or will not be confirmed.

Don’t fear that the answer decided upon is either right or wrong. If we decided the answer was “yes” and the Lord knows the answer is “no”, we will not feel that our answer is right. We will “have no such feelings.” Then after studying the question again we may present a “no” to the Lord. He will also let us know if that answer is correct. We must repeat the process until we know the answer is right.

Knowing we have made a correct decision in life can mean all the difference. We will never have to look back and question ourselves.

 

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